I followed a couple of links from a blog this morning and discovered a sermon about relationships and sex. The pastor is pretty hip, pretty trendy, but as far as I can tell his teaching is Biblical. He started the sermon by talking about man's responsibility to lead and women's desire for men to lead. He referenced Song of Solomon. In chapter 2 Solomon says to his beloved, "Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me." Come with me! Solomon has a plan. He is inviting this woman to come with him. Solomon can do this only because he knows where he's going. Masculine initiative is the foundation for Godly relationship? I don't know if that's entirely true, it seems like there are more important things that come first, but I definitely think its near the bottom of the foundation. "A man with a plan" which is the title of this sermon. This is contradictory to man's current role in the dating scene. This is something a man would say today, "hey girl, what are you doing? I don't know what I'm going to be doing, but you can come with me if you want. Only if you want, its your decision because I don't want the responsibility of leading." Pastor Tim Lucas says that men are taught to treat relationships like a game. "'Play it cool. Gotta keep her guessing. Don't commit to anything cause I gotta keep my options open.' Instead of being clear and communicative about our intentions, we're coy." That sounds familiar. But to be fair, women play games too and lots of women don't have any idea what they want either. In general people don't usually know what they want, but Solomon knew what he wanted. But as a woman, I have a responsibility to respond well to man's initiative. I should honor his willingness to take a risk. Have you seen the movie "He's Just Not That Into You"? Its a whole movie about men without Godly initiative and women who don't respect their men. Movies like that sell because we relate to them and think they're funny. "Its funny cause its true." I think this blog is coming off as a little "man-hater" but that's not my intention. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man, we both love the Lord and I see these things play out in our relationship daily. I'm not a cynic, I'm a realist.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
do not fear
I followed a couple of links from a blog this morning and discovered a sermon about relationships and sex. The pastor is pretty hip, pretty trendy, but as far as I can tell his teaching is Biblical. He started the sermon by talking about man's responsibility to lead and women's desire for men to lead. He referenced Song of Solomon. In chapter 2 Solomon says to his beloved, "Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me." Come with me! Solomon has a plan. He is inviting this woman to come with him. Solomon can do this only because he knows where he's going. Masculine initiative is the foundation for Godly relationship? I don't know if that's entirely true, it seems like there are more important things that come first, but I definitely think its near the bottom of the foundation. "A man with a plan" which is the title of this sermon. This is contradictory to man's current role in the dating scene. This is something a man would say today, "hey girl, what are you doing? I don't know what I'm going to be doing, but you can come with me if you want. Only if you want, its your decision because I don't want the responsibility of leading." Pastor Tim Lucas says that men are taught to treat relationships like a game. "'Play it cool. Gotta keep her guessing. Don't commit to anything cause I gotta keep my options open.' Instead of being clear and communicative about our intentions, we're coy." That sounds familiar. But to be fair, women play games too and lots of women don't have any idea what they want either. In general people don't usually know what they want, but Solomon knew what he wanted. But as a woman, I have a responsibility to respond well to man's initiative. I should honor his willingness to take a risk. Have you seen the movie "He's Just Not That Into You"? Its a whole movie about men without Godly initiative and women who don't respect their men. Movies like that sell because we relate to them and think they're funny. "Its funny cause its true." I think this blog is coming off as a little "man-hater" but that's not my intention. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man, we both love the Lord and I see these things play out in our relationship daily. I'm not a cynic, I'm a realist.
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